I appreciate all you are doing. Since the early 2000s I've been teaching phone etiquette and phone use. The more phones are used as part of the learning process - photos, communication, investigating, solving literacy and writing issues, scientific apps, etc, the less disruptive they are. The more phones are out in the open, the less disruptive they are. The more we consciously talk about engagement and what they see adults doing, the less disruptive they are. Let's also talk adult reality - how do you not insult the people you are working with. How do you respond to an outside urgent message without being disruptive?

Schools disrupt kids constantly and never apologize for it. PA announcements, the schedule, the teacher talking when kids are working. Schools also disrupt sleep, the kids' real lives (work, sibling care, etc) constantly. Can kids have a true conversation about disruption and attention? Given the chance, yes they can. Can school admins do the same? That's a tougher question.